i haTE it when people are like
awww guys who are nice to their little siblings <3333333
guys who are sweet with old people <33333333
guys who respect their mothers <333333
guys who are glorified in society for doing things that are expected of everyone else because theyre the most basic forms of human kindness <3333
This is your daily reminder that self-indulgence can be a form of self-care.
That ‘because it makes me feel better’ is a completely valid reason to do something.
That if something makes you happy then it is not pointless or a waste of time.
That if doing something makes you feel better then it is not something that is unproductive to do.
And that doing things that make you feel okay is just as important as anything else.
Broom People - The Mountain Goats
I write down good reasons to freeze to death
in my spiral-ring notebook.
But in the long tresses of your hair,
I am a babbling brook.
Oregon highway in the spring
So here’s the real reason that rape jokes are troubled territory -
Because rape victims say so.
They get to say that. They get to feel that way. On this, they get to set the cultural rules.
It’s not about right or wrong, or logic versus emotion, or arguments of over sensitivity or hypocrisy - you have the free speech to make whatever jokes you want or talk about rape in whatever way you feel is illuminating. But they get to be upset about it. And call you on it. And be hurt by it.
But consider this:
You get to not be a rape victim.
They, however, are not afforded that luxury. Ever again.
|—||Chuck Wendig (via vickiexz)|
Read this Village Voice cover story this morning and got my life + became a fan. Specifically here:
“Quattlebaum says he hates … the field of queer studies along with it. ‘I have a lot of problems with the academic queer community because it’s a community that exists completely removed from reality,’ he says. ‘Those kids who are selling their bodies on the West Side Highway, on Christopher Street, they don’t even know what the fuck queer theory is.’”
Hence our need to be rooted in grassroots, in the streets, in solidarity with those who are “marginalized.” I’m done with folks and organizations speaking our names and bodies in theory, in death, in stats. Yet ignoring the same folks they discuss in theory without ever knowing us, without ever trying to engage, without ever “outreaching,” without ever lending the stage and resources to us.
As a trans woman of color - no matter what space I enter - I have one stilletoed foot on the street. Always.
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this is a constant inner-struggle i have with myself. the balance between academia and grass-roots activism. it’s a sad reality that having academic ‘credentials’ makes people listen to you more when you are doing your activism work. trying to keep the balance so i can be as an effective voice as possible. not easy. this is a good reminder what it’s all about.
mykki blanco is quite honestly amazing if you haven’t seen the music video fo wavvy i highly recommend